The summer holidays can be an exciting time for families, but for separated parents, they can also bring added stress.
Longer breaks from school and extra time off work often mean more to plan and juggle, especially when you’re trying to make sure children enjoy their time off without feeling torn between two homes.
With some early planning and good communication, it is possible to make summer break arrangements that work for everyone and help your children feel settled and secure.
Keep the Focus on the Children
When making any holiday plans, it’s important to keep your children’s best interests at the heart of every decision. Try to understand how they feel about time away and what would help them enjoy their holidays without worry. Wherever possible, involving older children in the conversation can help them feel heard.
Plan Ahead
Agreeing plans well in advance can help everyone feel more relaxed. Talk about:
- Dates – Try to sort out who will have the children and when, so everyone knows what to expect.
- Trips Away – If one parent is planning a holiday abroad or within the UK, discuss details in good time, and, in the absence of a residence order, ensure the other parent has consented to any abroad trips.
- Special Days – Think about birthdays, local events or family gatherings that may fall during the break.
- Travel and Costs – Be clear about practicalities like transport, pick-ups and sharing costs for holidays or passports.
- Putting plans in writing — even if it’s just an email — can help avoid confusion later.
Be Flexible
While sticking to agreed plans is helpful, life can change unexpectedly. Delays, illness or changes in work patterns can all happen. Being understanding and flexible where you can helps reduce tension and shows children that both parents are putting them first.
Support Children to Stay Connected
Children may find it hard to be away from one parent for longer than usual. Encouraging regular calls, texts or video chats can help them feel reassured and maintain their bond with both sides of the family.
Get Advice if Needed
If you’re struggling to agree on summer arrangements, you don’t have to manage alone. Speaking to a family solicitor or using mediation can help you find a fair and workable solution, so everyone knows where they stand.
How We Can Help
At d and h, we know that separated families want what’s best for their children. If you’d like advice about making summer contact arrangements, understanding your options, or any other family law matter, we’re here to help.
For clear, practical advice on managing family life after separation, whether for the summer holidays or any time of year, our experienced family law team at d and h are ready to help.
Contact us today to arrange a friendly, confidential chat.